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Three Timeless Trademarks of Ladylike Etiquette for Girls
When it comes to etiquette it can be hard to gauge what is unnecessary and out of date, versus what is timeless, important and still elicits people's favor.
We want to teach our daughters ladylike etiquette, but we also want it to fit with modern times and not feel out of place.
Here are three traits of ladylike behavior that never go out of style!
When it comes to etiquette it can be hard to gauge what is unnecessary and out of date, versus what is timeless, important and still elicits people's favor.
We want to teach our daughters ladylike etiquette, but we also want it to fit with modern times and not feel out of place.
Here are three traits of ladylike behavior that never go out of style!
1. A Joyful & Kind Heart!
Don’t gloss over this point because it really is the most important one!
The most beautiful, attractive, and timeless trait in ladylike etiquette is kindness. It is really the most attractive trait in anyone!
When people care and are mindful of us, we notice. We also notice when people are just looking out for themselves. And unfortunately, that is often the norm today.
Self-absorption and abrasive behavior are an absolute pandemic in our culture right now.
But because of that, nothing stands out and SHINES BRIGHTER than someone who is kind and a blessing to be around.☀️
A kind smile, an encouraging word, bending down to interact playfully and kindly with a tiny person- these little gestures stand out like a rose growing out of a thorny bush.
Kindness is an outward flowing of a deeper reality; a peace and gentleness of the heart.
"But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control."
If you're spending time with God daily and taking the time to soak up his word, there is no way you can miss the fruit of kindness.
We should be cultivating this within our own hearts, and exemplifying it for our daughters to learn!
What in the world is more ladylike than that?
2. Carrying Herself Confidently
Standing up tall, speaking with a loud voice, looking into people's eyes, being able to carry a conversation with people of different ages, backgrounds and beliefs; these behaviors mark confidence.
But these are things we must work at ourselves, so we can exemplify them to our daughters.
In my Ladylike Etiquette for Girls Mini-Course, I share a great technique for teaching your daughter how to converse with adults!
Learning how to have good manners and carry a conversation with adults will help win your child favor with those around her, which in turn will increase her confidence further!
And remember, the greatest work will come from the inside as we seek God’s blessing of a renewed heart and a purposeful life!
3. Cleanliness and Order in Her Life
A cornerstone of ladylike behavior includes a lightness and a freeness to notice what matters.
There is breathing room and space. There is order.
The opposite of this is someone who is overrun with busyness, haggardness, overwhelmed and has no neatness of person.
This might sound harsh considering that many women ARE completely overwhelmed with life responsibilities. This is not to say that the VALUE of this person is any less. We are each dearly beloved children of God no matter what our circumstances, or how clean our house is. (Thank God he does not judge us as the world does!)
But it is highly beneficial (and ladylike) to clear out the clutter and focus only on what really matters.
Simplifying our lives and possessions can lead to so much more freedom and space and allows us to be exceptional at the few things that really matter!
This is a true trademark of a ladylike demeanor.
I hope these points have helped to spark inspiration in your own journey to a more meaningful, peaceful and joyful life- and also have helped to guide you in teaching your daughter to be ladylike!
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What Southern Women Understand About Men
My family and I are spending the week in a little coastal town in Georgia that we love!
Being a clean-cut, Christian family in the Northeast can feel lonely at times.
Here is GA, just seeing the genuine smiles and the polite interactions- the hey ya’ll’s and God bless you’s- is like fresh air to our souls!!
There is also a different kind of sweetness between men and women here.
My family and I are spending the week in a little coastal town in Georgia that we love!
Being a clean-cut, Christian family in the Northeast can feel lonely at times.
Here is GA, just seeing the genuine smiles and the polite interactions- the hey ya’ll’s and God bless you’s- is like fresh air to our souls!!
There is also a different kind of sweetness between men and women here.
This morning I was walking barefoot back from the beach, stepping carefully on the hot wooden walkway leading me away from the sand. I was soaking up the sunshine, the ocean breeze and the friendly conversations taking place around me.
As I passed a group of young people in their early 20’s heading toward the beach, I saw two young men each holding the handle of a GIANT cooler. The cooler was obviously very heavy, as they were carrying supplies for their whole group.
I overheard one of the muscular young-men jokingly say: “does anyone else feel like the beach is a mile away right now?”
The whole group snickered.
Then about 10 seconds later, I heard one of the young ladies say something that nearly made my heart leap out of my chest.😍
She said to the strapping young men carrying the cooler, in her sweet southern accent:
“I just want ya’ll to know that we appreciate you SO much.”
It was a small thing, really.
Something that could have easily gone overlooked.
But to me it stood out like a neon sign.
Why? Because I NEVER hear women say things like that where I’m from.
Where I’m from, it is culturally OPPOSITE for women to show respect, gratitude or appreciation for the strength of a man. And in some of the most “progressive” circles, it has become taboo to even acknowledge gender differences- let alone compliment them.
I have 3 sons, and do you know what each one of them likes and appreciates most from me?
When I watch and acknowledge how strong, fast, smart or good at something they are.
NOTHING makes them light up more than when I pay attention to and appreciate their skills and strength.
Men are no different.
They want to be appreciated for their strengths and skills. They want to serve and prove worthy of respect.
And when they get this kind of respect and affirmation from their lady, it’s like throwing gasoline on a fire!!! (In all the best ways.)
If your man does not like to serve you and his family, it could be because his efforts have gone unappreciated or undermined in the past. This makes men shell up.
Plus many of us never had someone teach us how to give praise, encouragement and respect to our man, so it just doesn’t feel natural to us.
I didn’t even know about this concept myself until I picked up Emmerson Eggriches book Love and Respect, which basically taught me this:
Just like we women have a deep desire to be LOVED, a man’s most basic need is to be RESPECTED.
It’s true.
So what do many women in the south know that we don’t?
They know how to treat men like men, and how to encourage them in that special way that only a lady can.
It is more in their upbringing and culture.
And in my opinion, it makes for a simpler, healthier and more easy-going attraction!☀️
A few resources you might love!
Putting Your Man in God’s Hands
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Have the courage to believe God’s word above your feelings.
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Cultivate the power of Respect
Learn how to draw up appropriate boundaries in your marriage.
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This is a personal writing project meant to express my feelings and thoughts, not to be used in place of God’s word. Anything good and true that I write is only because he has blessed and gifted me to do so, but I am a sinner, saved by grace, and am prone to weakness, bias, harshness and fault. I hope that my words can lead you to seek more of your own personal walk with Christ, because HE is only place you will find real TRUTH and satisfaction.